That’s been the code word. Whenever one of us wanted to talk about “The Thing” without saying “The Thing”.
When we met with an immigration attorney this summer before renewing my student visa, it was part of Operation: Muffin. Just to get some ideas.
When a big freelance project pay day happened in November and he wanted to take me out for dinner sometime in January to celebrate.
When a gift certificate for a manicure was in my Christmas stocking, I had an inkling, but I was busy revising for exams and working on training contract applications.
Friday, if you missed the announcement on Twitter, Alasdair proposed and I (of course!) said yes!
We’ve received a staggering number of well wishes and congratulations, and I only wish I could say thank you to everybody in person. It really does mean the world to us!
Since I have to get back to coursework and Alasdair is busy miraculously juggling part time employment and full time freelancing, we put together this quick FAQ for everyone.
- We met via the wonders of Twitter. Alasdair is the host of Pseudopod, a premier weekly horror podcast, and I am (still!) a huge fan. We struck up a casual conversation and realized we had a lot in common, from movies to music to books.
- The relationship deepened as we both went through difficult personal circumstances. Through it all, we provided support for each other over 5,000 miles and 8 hours time difference.
- December 2011 we met for the first time in person. We spent a three week holiday together in London, my first trip abroad. We made side trips to Bristol, York and Edinburgh. We dressed up and attended the London Symphony Orchestra in Davies Hall where Sir Neville Marriner conducted Beethoven’s Fifth and Ninth symphonies (my dream live concert).
- We started talking about who was going to move where; at the time I was in the Bay Area and Alasdair was in York. I was in a unique place at work in that my current boss would be retiring soon, eliminating my position in the near-future. Going further with my education had always been a goal, so I started investigating my firm’s London office and law schools both in the US and UK. We talked to immigration attorneys on both sides of the Atlantic.
- Videogames were played via PlayStation Network. We lived on FaceTime and Gchat.
- Alasdair’s then-job ended in May 2012 at the same time his lease expired. We wanted to give both countries a fair “audition”, so he came to California (via an amazing weekend in New York) for the summer. We went on several smaller trips including GenCon in Indianapolis; Austin to see his best friend and now-fiance; San Diego, Yosemite, and of course Disneyland!
- In September 2012 we moved together to Nottingham and I started the GDL at Nottingham Law School. We moved to Beeston in November last year, and I’ll finish the LPC in May.
Friday, January 10th, after my solicitor’s accounts exam. *chuckle*
Las Iguanas, one of my favorite local restaurants.
- Did Alasdair go on one knee?
Yes. (I’m not sure why people keep asking that, but they are…)
- What music was playing?
“L-O-V-E” by Nat King Cole.
- The ring?
Currently in my head. Alasdair is wise enough to know how … particular I am. (Diamonds=no) We’ve met with a jeweler to put together some sketches and source stones for an engagement ring and wedding bands.
In the meantime I have a lovely charm for my charm bracelet – a heart lock and key made from an antique British penny (I love keys).
- When’s the wedding?
We’re not going to do any significant planning until after my LPC elective exams in May. My studies come first, end of story. If you have a fantastic brilliant idea that you’re just dying to share I would LOVE to hear it! In June.
- Where will the wedding be?
See above. Preliminary thoughts are one small event here, and another small event in California, to save everybody airfare.
- Where will you live?
We’ve always planned to remain in the UK. We love the little house we live in now and would love to buy it. The majority of our friends and professional contacts are here. I’m diligently applying for training contracts to complete my qualification. In addition, I’ll seek full time legal employment this summer and start racking up CILEx qualifying time. And we have lots of options for visiting the States whenever circumstances allow.
- If money was no object, what would you do?
Purchase, reassemble and charter Eureka to take us to The Ahwahnee Hotel in Yosemite National Park. My family’s been camping in Yosemite forever, and it holds many important memories. Then we’d enjoy the park for a week with lots of hiking, bike riding, canoeing, stargazing and rock climbing. And we’d bring all our friends and family with us.